First and foremost, start by monitoring your thinking. A simple but powerful technique is this: “Watch Your Words!” Begin with the words you speak, because spoken words are easier to notice and control than the thoughts in your head.
The very first step is to stop complaining about life. When you feel the urge to complain during a conversation, try biting your tongue. Better yet, replace the complaint with something positive, like saying, “Everything is going great.” Then, take a moment to reflect and actively find the positives in whatever situation you’re facing. This trains your mind to look for the good, even when it’s not obvious. The truth is, no matter what you’re going through, there are always positives — you just need to learn to find them.
Understand the Power of Your Thoughts
Beyond just words, understand that your thoughts have a real, tangible impact. Thoughts are material. When you speak them aloud, they become even more real — like a seal stamped on an important document. Humans have a remarkable ability to bring their thoughts into reality, whether they realize it or not. Unfortunately, many unknowingly materialize their fears and doubts instead of their hopes and dreams.
Work Playfully with Your Fears
The next step is to work with your fears instead of fighting or suppressing them. There are many approaches out there, but the ones I find most effective use laughter and lightness — such as Simoron, Laughter Therapy, and similar methods. These playful techniques help loosen the grip of fear and make it easier to shift your mindset.
Replace Negative Thoughts Immediately
Once you have mastered holding your tongue when tempted to complain, start taking control of your thoughts as well. If you catch yourself thinking, “Ah, how ugly I am,” don’t just let it slide or counter it with a half-hearted excuse like, “But at least I’m smart.” Instead, immediately replace it with a powerful, positive thought about the same subject: “I am beautiful.” Even if you don’t believe it at first, say it repeatedly until you do. If you struggle to believe the positive thought, try to see yourself and the situation with fresh eyes. This practice rewires your internal narrative to support your well-being.
Stop Scolding Yourself and Embrace Life’s Opportunities
Another important rule is to stop scolding yourself or cursing your life. Life is constantly offering an abundance of opportunities, even if they don’t always come wrapped in the way you expect. Likewise, don’t curse your loved ones if their love looks different from what you expect. Just because they don’t love you exactly how you want doesn’t mean they don’t love you deeply.
This is a truth I always keep close: “Everything always happens exactly as it should — in the best possible way.” I have proven this to myself time and again, and it brings peace amidst life’s challenges.
