Love is not a feeling. It’s not something we experience as “beautiful yearning” or any other poetic sensation—hormonal surges, desire, passion? Those are not love. They are simply yearning, desire, passion, hormones, and often neurotic responses shaped by neglect or unmet needs.
Love is space. It’s like a seventh dimension—a realm we create ourselves. Imagine universes, expansions, pockets of the cosmos that come into existence because we give them form. At its simplest, love is the “permission to be”—to exist fully and unconditionally. This is why we speak of “unconditional love”: it means allowing space for existence without conditions.
The moment a condition slips in—something like “the same, but with mother-of-pearl buttons”—that space collapses into zero. Love, as space, disappears.
What’s remarkable is that this space of love doesn’t exist outside of us. You cannot enter it simply by stepping into someone else’s space. Being in another’s space of love may feel comfortable or pleasant, but it will never deliver the deep joy of fulfillment that comes from creating your own. That personal space of love isn’t about comfort alone—it transcends the illusion of incompleteness. In this space, created from within, the concepts of completeness or incompleteness simply don’t apply; they become meaningless, like an empty echo.
This is because when we are the source of our space of love, the first to enter it is ourselves. Until this space fully embraces us, we cannot truly give love. This is a principle as fundamental as physics.
So, anyone still trapped by ideas of completeness, incompleteness, uncertainty, or similar self-deceptions isn’t capable of love—not the pure, transparent state of love that flows from acceptance of everything, including the “aunt with the halo of curlers,” those we cherish close and far. They may be capable of yearning, hormonal reactions, even neuroses, but the profound state of love is only accessible to those who have created their own space of love and become that space themselves.
From this perspective, everything about love becomes clear and simple.
