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Love is not a feeling. It’s not something we experience as “beautiful yearning” or any other poetic sensation—hormonal surges, desire, passion? Those are not love. They are simply yearning, desire, passion, hormones, and often neurotic responses shaped by neglect or unmet needs.

I approached this from the perspective of the space of possibilities. As you probably know (and if not, here’s my take), we live within a space of infinite possibilities. Each of us chooses from this space according to our thoughts and feelings.

Love is not a feeling. It is not closeness, sex...

About the contract… I think that in those realms where the decision about life’s conditions is made, the concept of a “contract” is inappropriate. But the idea that we make a choice — along with all the life circumstances — I also believe in that.

I’m reading this amazing book by Joe Vitale called Zero Limits. Joe is the guy from the movie The Secret who talked about being broke in Dallas for 15 years—and then, suddenly, everything changed and he became rich. Lots of other incredible things happened to him too. But this book isn’t about how he got rich.

My periodic desire to escape from myself has nothing to do with a desire for death or an end to life. It suddenly clicked for me what Eckhart Tolle meant when he said he had wanted to kill himself — and how, in the very moment he realized it, he understood that he didn’t actually want to leave life, but wanted to kill himself — the version of himself he was not.

If we accept as a given that the reality around us is shaped by our consciousness and sensations, and that the conscious, aware part of us is unconditional, then for any reality to feel truly real, it must first be perceived. Everything that can make up reality happens.

Today, it suddenly occurred to me why I develop myself. Why I study and learn to be wise, why I develop my projects… It’s not just for the sake of enjoying the process of developing projects. There’s an important element here — to feel myself in the process. So, why do I need all of this? Well, the goal is clear — to be happy.

I had to look at different parts of my life and rate how well they were working on a scale from one to ten. Out of ten areas, only two scored above a four. On a ten-point scale! At first, I thought, “My life freakin’ sucks.” But the assignment wasn’t over yet. The real task was to figure out what agreements or promises had been broken in those areas that weren’t working well.

I’ve been listening to a series of interviews with James Ray, who participated in the movie The Secret. As always, he uses many analogies, and I love analogies because they give me clear visuals: I can immediately picture how something works and remember the metaphor behind it.